Rejection is always a choice

As soon as you read the title, it might or not come to you as to how rejection is a choice. It is a consequence of your deeds, isn't it? But when I think over it, I feel that it is always a choice for an individual. But getting rejected from or rejecting what is another question to think over. Let  us take any example out of approaching a girl, being in a relationship, choosing a subject to study or a job to do, going to visit some place, buying an ice-cream  flavor (or other really important things for that matter) and many more.

I would like to talk about being in a relationship. Relationship does not only mean a relation between two lovers. It can be anything between two people - love, hate, friends, f-buddies, parent-child, strangers etc. Now that a relationship is in place, how does an individual have a choice of rejection here? Please note that I am not going to talk about acceptance as one has already accepted to be in the said relation.

The choice of rejection comes when you think of your feelings towards the other person. Do you really, actually, from the deepest corner of your heart- really feel what you feel about the other person? Or do you want your feelings to change to a different, higher or lower level? Understand that choice of 'no feelings' is not there, ever, in any kind of relationship. Feeling 'no feeling’ is another kind of feeling that exists. And that is a choice you have made by 'rejecting' all other alternatives of feelings that you could have felt towards the other person. (Lots of Fs there)

That was about rejecting, what about being rejected? It feels bad to think of it as if you are going to be rejected by someone else, but does this thought cross your mind when you reject other people? How they feel when you reject them?

Here I share an anecdote which, if you think from different people's perspective, will illustrate both of these situations. Recently I visited an NGO, Kripa foundation, for a workshop course I have to complete. Our group met Mr. Bosco there, National Project Head of Kripa. During our conversation he asked - What do you say about a person, after seeing whose face your whole day is spoiled? (It is just your feeling, might not be true) And that person keeps coming back to you again and again? (And suppose, it happens again and again) We gave various answers which after listening to his answer felt really stupid. Why would you even like to have such a person in your life? Wouldn't you just ask him to bug off forever? No, you will not after you read the next statement. Mr. Bosco's take on this is as follows, “Thinking of this from his side, what if after meeting you, his day goes by nicely? You are some kind of an angel for that person. Why would you be rude to him? No, don't be. Think over it, and the day you understand this, your whole life and your relation with people will rise to a better level".

I hope many of you understand what he wanted to say. And I hope you also understand this on the lines of what I wanted to say in this article.  Stay tuned through Email subscriptions or become a follower to receive updates related to Sector S. Cheers :)